Frankly, do you (American or Westernized man) or anyone else know why many people in United States (and maybe the Western world) are so:
- unfriendly to everyone?
- difficult to have a conversation?
- interested in only talking or connecting with people they know or like?
- aloof to those who are different in appearance, character, or both?
Maybe these questions explain that the suicide rate in United States is growing. It is sad that more Americans feel lonely, rejected, worthless, unloved, and so on. Like me, they should save their money for their vacations overseas. They would consequently realize how special and valuable their lives are.
Traveling or living in my country is far from easy. You may deal with ongoing problems with society, employment, government, health, etc. But, the 5 types of people who may drive you to isolation or relocation to another nation are:
Like society, media, and television shows, local dating (or online dating) has gone down the hill. Most men and probably you cannot enjoy a date without being judged for who you are (not) or being questioned about your income, materialistic items, etc. Nowadays, you cannot even ask a beautiful woman for a date or even have a simple and friendly conversation with her. She may walk away, put pepper spray in your eyes, threaten your life, call the police, or report you to your supervisor and get you written up, suspended, or fired. Fortunately, you do not have to face any of these negative consequences from a foreign woman. She and her beautiful Ukrainian, Chinese, etc. counterparts would be very glad to give you their attention.
There is that saying “It is easier to talk to strangers than it is with friends“. But, depending on where you go or who you encounter, sometimes communicating with stranger(s) is difficult. I do not know about your situation. But, as an introvert, I am careful about who I can trust and speak about my feelings. Everything from domestic marriage to politics seems to be a joke to everyone today. Nevertheless, I may be taken more seriously by foreigners. I can emotionally heal and move forward to something positive and meaningful thanks to them. If you ever experience depression, loneliness, or even grief and have no one to discuss your problem(s), you can always jump on an airplane, fly to your foreign destination (e.g. Thailand or Costa Rica), and find your solution(s) there.
Maybe this category explains why I am unable to connect with other people (besides being shy and quiet). However, I can be myself completely around my immediate family. After all, I live with them. It would not be long until I have to get my own place though. I may be thrilled to have more privacy. But, spending more money for rent and possibly getting a 2nd job make me want to work so hard in attracting customers to my online business. Plus, I may have to bond and ask my estranged cousins for help on a personal need according to my parents. I feel so trapped where I live that I wish to return to Ukraine and stay there longer. If I successfully build a relationship with Viktoria and her family, I may depend on them more than I do with mines.
Whether you are close to your relatives or not, you can still fall in love with a foreign lady and consider her family as yours.
Friends come and go like almost everything else in United States does. Some lose interest in you while others move away. There is nothing you can say or do in order to keep the same ones in your life. However, remaining true to yourself and befriending diverse people who share your interests are necessary for your well-being. You would certainly succeed with both tasks if you go overseas. Your new friends, who may be a combination of foreigners, worldwide tourists, and American/Western expats, would be there for you indefinitely.
Facing them is just as challenging as getting away from them is. You cannot win either way. All you can do is prepare for a beatdown or threat from them. Reporting them to the police or authorities may help your case. But, if they are cyberbullies or online haters, you should be able to easily expose them. Just take and submit screenshot images of their malicious words, messages, etc. to whoever is in charge of disputes. Then, focus entirely on to those who support or like you for who you are. If you decide to have an unique business or blog like I do, you would win plenty of followers and viewers alike. Do not be surprised if some of them are foreigners. They are not going to despise or become jealous of your remarkable work like some Americans/Westerners would.
Truly, it is difficult to communicate or connect with someone in United States unless you are a family member, friend, colleague, charmer, or celebrity.
But, you do not have to be special in order to build a relationship with another human being overseas. You can be yourself 100%. You can relax whether you are alone or accompanied with him or her. You would feel like you are on cloud nine.
United States has changed dramatically. Many Americans are not the same as they have been in the past either. No one really cares much about each other anymore. You (if you live here) and I are pretty much on our own when it comes to what we need.
You can always approach someone in a foreign country (e.g. Thailand or Brazil).
You can probably do the same in a small American city.
You would however have more success with human connection abroad.
Most foreigners believe in sticking together and looking out for each other due to their collectivist cultures.
They are not selfish.
They are not distant.
They are not standoffish.
They are always there when you need them.
Let your heart encourage you to meet them and possibly your future wife.
You would have:
- 0 regrets for the rest of your life
- 1 woman to love and support you unconditionally
- many friendships with approachable people from all walks of life