In spite of the ongoing hostility, ridicule, and negative comments on social media, I truly like and consider Ben Rathbun (American) and Mahogany Roca (Peruvian) as one of my favorite international couples on “90 Day Fiance” series. He has followed his heart and overcome “big” barriers in order to happily marry her (under the K3 spousal visa process) in her country. If his shortage of money and donation of blood can lead him to an everlasting relationship with a gorgeous foreign lady, you (American or Western man) and I should do something similar for the women of our dreams as well. Sometimes, our imperfections or issues (e.g. being broke, having low self-esteem, dwelling on past mistakes) can guide us to perfect and permanent connections with imperfect ladies who can fulfill or exceed our expectations.

It is somewhat difficult to believe that I have traveled to Odessa, Ukraine for the first time almost 6 years ago and even before the start of the horrendous and endless Russian war and invasion caused by Putin. I still remember most of the places and events that I have experienced there. One particular date that I would never forget is the Wednesday afternoon time I have spent with a lady named Karina. Please read my 2018 blog post about her if you wish to know additional details. Whether you do so or not, you are going to understand why I have written that blog post. The guilt of telling her, through an unknown translator, my honest opinion of her double ponytail hairstyle has weighed down on me a little. She has changed her mood to sadness and become slightly distant from me as a result. Although I have apologized and tried to correct my words to the translator, I have realized that it has been too late. Negative words and/or a demeanor can slowly or quickly damage the psyche of an individual especially if he or she has faced years of mental, verbal, etc. abuse. So, all I can do is continually pray and ask God to help Karina get what she needs or wants eventually. Hopefully, she is at peace with the right man.

Based on my concern with Mahogany and Karina, I have to ask you this topic question:

Why do you believe that some ladies in non-Western countries are so focused on the negative opinions of themselves?

If you desire to respond on the ‘Comments’ section below, please do so.

Otherwise, please read my 5 certain reasons for their insecurity:

They are constantly ignored, cheated, or rejected by local foreign men.

I have another blog post that relates and explains some good reasons regarding this subcategory. Because of where they are and how they are perceived or treated by society, most foreign women are not treated equally or superiorly to the men. It does not matter what drastically or tragically occurs in their nations. Even author Hama Sokolova-Stekh of “DW” website verifies my saying by actually informing what challenges 3 certain Ukrainian female soldiers have experienced and how each of them has overcome misogyny.

Therefore, multiple females in Ukraine, Colombia, Philippines, etc. can respond to hostility from the opposite gender and their communities by remaining positive and true to themselves. God can help the ladies see the positive viewpoint of any difficulty, discrimination, or barrier. Also, through His unchanging characteristics, they are capable of building supplemental confidence while showing honesty and focusing on their strengths, skills, etc. If numerous foreign men still consider the attractive women as “trash”, then the females can become “treasure” or even more to us American/Western males.

They have to deal with other foreign women who are jealous of them.

Like myself and maybe you, any other American or Westernized guy may worry about the safety of his potential foreign wife when she legally enters his nation. Perverted men and jealous women may come in their path whether the international couple is at home, a grocery store, church, or even their jobs. Nevertheless, the foreign lady may face extra issues from both genders if she decides to stay unmarried, reside in her home country, and dress more femininely. She should not be astounded if her female friends, neighbors, relatives, and/or colleagues, according to the words of “The Feminine Woman” writer Renee Wade, begin:

• Giving her strange or uncomfortable stares
• Scheming and connecting with other insecure/jealous ladies
• Talking behind her back and suddenly becoming quiet or unresponsive to her
• Keeping their distance or coming up with excuses for not hanging out together
• Posting photos, videos, etc. about her on the Internet without her knowledge or permission

Hence, she should attempt her best to ignore them. If she fails, then she should tell someone in authority or total trust and collect as much evidence as she can against the bullies and other troublemakers. Silence attracts or encourages predators to continue targeting their victims. Due to this fact, she, you, I, and many others need to loudly and constantly speak until:

• Our faith grows
• Our voices are heard
• Our mission is accomplished

They are often discouraged by society, culture, etc.

Several women, who are mostly American, speak their perspectives about gender discrimination on a CareerVillage.org webpage. They have much difficulty in avoiding or escaping from hateful, ignorant, powerful, misogynistic men especially in the STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math) fields. I have a right to comment this sad truth because of the contempt I have witnessed during my 2^nd trip in Odessa, Ukraine. Watching an anonymous male purposefully bumping between Elizabeth and Valeria and then walking away without apologizing to them has shocked me. I have chosen to remain positive and let both Ukrainian females know that not all men are the same. Now, thanks to FCW business, they wholeheartedly know how much I care about them despite of our different genders, races, nationalities, etc. International relationships have forever changed how many diverse individuals (including myself) think, behave, and treat each other and the remainder of this world. Ergo, millions of foreign ladies can remain encouraged and hopeful of seeking what or whom they need/want in their lives for good. Additionally, they know that they can turn a negative into a positive and that they can use their haters to push them to their fates. God’s plan for each human being, regardless of what his or her negative situation, always leads to positive, desirable, and enduring outcomes.

They may not believe or follow the Lord Jesus Christ.

Sin fulfills or satisfies the desires of the flesh of millions of people. Nevertheless, sin breaks apart their relationships with God. He thus sends His Son to enter the world and save humanity from sin or evil completely. Unfortunately, numerous humans before, during, and after Jesus’ life span on earth pick to ignore Him and live their sinful lifestyles regardless of the negative consequences. Matthew 7:13-14 proves my point of view. So, I would not be amazed if thousands or millions of ladies in non-Westernized countries (Costa Rica, Kenya, Philippines, Sweden, etc.) think and behave the same ways of unbelievers or secular people. How can those foreign women actually find their future husbands, build profitable businesses, or do anything else phenomenal without praying or relying on the all-powerful God? Even if they reject Him, stay positive, friendly, and selfless to others, and still reach the desires of their hearts, they can eventually lose everything when they face death and exit this world physically. Author Dennis Pollock of “Spirit of Grace Ministries” website clearly explains more details concerning this fact. So, the women who have less wealth or money, face ongoing mistreatment from others, and/or deal with other nonstop issues in their everyday lives are capable of bringing their dreams into a reality. All they need to do is repent, believe, and focus on the Creator of the universe persistently. As a result, He is able to not only exceed their expectations but also expand and leave their legacies for their current/future children and grandchildren who are part of the next generation(s).

They are unaware or inexperienced with the majority of American/Western males who are prominent for respecting and valuing the opposite gender.

Although the rate of international dating increases and more individuals (including myself) are interested in building marital connections with foreigners, still millions of foreign females are suffering in loneliness or negative relationships with controlling, abusive, and/or unfaithful local foreign men. The women may receive little or no chance in winning the men of their dreams or even going on dates if they stay in their male-dominated nations. For that reason, the ladies join international dating/marriage agencies or websites in hopes of achieving their long-term goals. FCW business relates to their purposes because it frankly wants the best for women from the country (Ukraine) and Elizabeth’s dating agency (“Just Married”). I am so devoted to them due to their sincerity, compatibility, maturity, and stubbornness. In fact, FCW website is perhaps going to be finished and launched this summer. Elizabeth and I are excitedly waiting for American/Western men to:

• Visit the website
• Register and create memberships for free
• Watch, comment, etc. on free FCW videos
• View profiles of European/Ukrainian females who are seeking true love
• Show interest in purchasing video chats (“Video Chats with Ladies” and “Singles Vacation Consultation”) and gifts for chosen ladies

If you are really interested, please let me and her know. Let us support, provide, and encourage the insecure women to go after their dreams despite of negative thoughts and experiences.

Conclusion

Sadly, numerous females in third world countries let fear, mistreatment from society, mediocrity, and lack of male attention take them to the wrong direction. They consequently condescend or put themselves in a lower rank regardless of how beautiful they are inside and out. If they ever come to United States or the Western world, they may receive more respect, acceptance, and love from many American/Western men. But, if the women stay in their nations for the rest of their lives, hopefully, their friends and relatives who possibly enter international marriages and relocate to the First World countries are encouraging and willing to share life-changing details with them.

A question that I want to ask you is:

• How can we American/Western guys truly help foreign women overcome their mental or emotional challenges?

Fortunately, the answer to my own question, after reading a “Medium” article by international dating expert Oliver Lewis, is registering on international dating websites. But, we need to make sure that they show honesty and provide evidence of happy and solid international marriages such as photos of international couples or even better – their video testimonials. Once extra foreign ladies learn and realize how those websites are different from the rest, they may 100% heal emotionally/mentally and start having more positive thoughts towards their wishes/goals. I hope that my business partner (Elizabeth) and I can support Ukrainian/European ladies plus multiple American/Western men find everlasting love and build invaluable connections with each other through FCW website and its:

• “Video Chats with Ladies” services
• “Singles Vacation Consultation” services
• Various gifts (for ladies)

While the number of foreign women enter international relationships or marriages grows, the remaining ones who are still single in their nations can build more self-esteem and completely pursue their dreams/goals despite of fear and other obstacles.

Foreign ladies who are happily involved with American/Western males represent the word “knowing” or “knowledge”. My reason is that they have the (whole) truth on their side. In other words, they have specific proof or facts that verify the existence of true love, commitment, and acceptance between any man and any woman regardless of their racial, cultural, etc. differences. The females should assist their fellow single sisters (who just “believe” or have little faith) in seeking their potential husbands or boyfriends with open and candid hearts too.

My second question to you is:

• What do you choose to do after learning these certain details about insecure foreign women?

If you can explain your reply in the “Comments” section below, I would appreciate it.

Although international dating/marriage has risen in popularity due to “90 Day Fiance” series and successful international dating/marriage agencies like A Foreign Affair (loveme.com) and hopefully Foreign Chat Web, still millions of people around the globe are single.

I wish that I can help those who really want to become happier and in love with the right partners or spouses.

So, let us help many foreign women in need especially those who are always discouraged, rejected, abused, bullied, name-called, etc.

In return, they can reciprocate with the needs of their family members, friends, and neighbors.

Having a selfless attitude and a giving heart please God.

I know that He is going to help me and Elizabeth take FCW business to a higher level and create amazing international couples.

He can do the same for you if you share His positive characteristics as well.

Donate, help, and/or encourage as many needy people chiefly foreign ladies as you can.

Your care can thus grow into a “tree”.

Once more of those ladies reach full happiness and perhaps give you gratitude, then you would know that your mission is accomplished.