“Match Me Abroad” television (TV) series is currently my favorite international dating show. I have fallen in love with the plot, various locations overseas, etc. I think that the American citizens who appear in the TV series are smarter than those on the disappointing “90 Day Fiance” TV series. My reason is that those on “Match Me Abroad” TV show hire professional matchmakers to help them communicate and build marital relationships with foreigners. The disadvantage is that the American citizens are devoid of a solid, clear, and straightforward plan to connect, legally marry their potential foreign partners, assist them in gaining their green cards, and so forth. Fortunately, unlike these American individuals, I have developed a plan through 2 certain documents I have created on Microsoft Word software. In fact, I have copied and pasted 2 specific but long tables on a recent blog post. If you (American or Western man) are interested in reading, following, and using the 2 tables for support in planning, organizing, and enjoying a singles vacation in a foreign country plus legally marrying a foreign woman in United States or another Western nation where you live, please click this link that takes you to the 2 tables.

So, based on my personal experiences in 3 nations (Colombia, Dominican Republic, and Ukraine), “Match Me Abroad” TV series, the negative “90 Day Fiance” series, and previous blog posts (particularly “International Dating 101” and “From Strangers to Spouses”), I am going to provide you another long introductory course that can help you win the foreign woman of your dreams.

This course is broken into 5 stages.

Please enjoy reading and understanding the details below:

STAGE 1 – The Stranger Stage

First and Second Dates

1). What should you do?

First and foremost, listen to God who fully knows and directs you to true love and joy. Next, contact and hire a sincere, reliable, and trustworthy translator or matchmaker before vacationing overseas. Listen and record the advice that he or she provides you when it comes to safety, dating foreign women, communicating with them, and so forth. After all, that expert lives in or near the foreign city you plan to stay for your trip. He/she understands more of the foreign culture and mentalities of the foreign ladies or many people there in general.

Again, pay (extra) attention to his or her words regarding your first and second dates with foreign females. Dressing appropriately, being early for your dates, having a smile on your face, and considering the needs, desires, and emotions of the chosen ladies you date are helpful tips that can take you ahead with them. Furthermore, “PureWow.com” authors Emma Singer and Stephanie Sengwe strongly advise that you go somewhere (e.g. movie theater, roller skating rink, shopping mall, or beach) that is personal or favorable to you for your second dates. As a result, the ladies can enjoy their time with you and sense your light side.

2). What should you say?

Because you are anonymous to the ladies and vice versa, you should keep the conversation as light, positive, and easy as possible. If you have fear or skepticism of what (else) to say or ask your dates, please contact your matchmaker or translator for assistance. He/she should provide or come up with a list of questions or topics that are proper to discuss during your dates. Here are 6 good examples according to 3 female writers of a “Women’s Health” first date article:

• What characteristics do you want in a partner?
• What type of work do you do or enjoy?
• In your opinion, what builds a healthy, happy, and strong relationship?
• What would you do or how do you respond to a conflict, difficulty, or disagreement with someone?
• Who is your role model or someone you consider as your confidante?
• What do you like about me or your date with me?

These questions may be specific and challenging to foreign ladies you date. However, the questions can help you narrow your list and pick the ones who are suitable. Words, body language, and attitude can tell you much about the personality of a lady. Pay more attention to them on each of your dates. Like me concerning my previous dates in Ukraine, Dominican Republic, and Colombia, you would perhaps know who is right for you.

3). What are the results?

Going on first and second dates with the same females can be initially difficult or uncomfortable. But, if you have a caring and supportive matchmaker or translator by your side, you would have a positive and different opinion toward dating in general. Sticking to the basics when it comes to your first/second date questions, tips/advice from your matchmaker or translator, and your demeanor is going to lead you to true success in international dating and positive relationships with various ladies.

4). How can you move forward with her?

Possibly, you can find the right woman after having your first or second date with her. Nevertheless, there is that phrase “Do not put all of your eggs in one basket”. Meeting and connecting with a few other special ladies can assist you in avoiding plausible rejection or heartbreak if your relationship with the first female unexpectedly ends or goes south. The last things that you need or want are to return to United States or your home country with a broken heart and to start being hostile or resentful toward women in general.

STAGE 2 – The Acquaintance Stage

Third and Subsequent Dates

1). What should you do?

You begin gaining little knowledge and comfort around the same ladies you date and vice versa. But, like your first and second dates, you should continue taking things slowly. In addition, avoid having thoughts or behavior concerning intimacy, religion, family members, etc. Just focus on creating unforgettable memories with the foreign ladies you date. Going somewhere that is far from the hotel or apartment you are staying is very helpful. The benefit is that the ladies plus your assigned matchmaker or translator know the different and distant areas of the foreign city (or cities) well. Above all, they have lived there or somewhere similar since their births. Based on my previous dates abroad, I would suggest these remote places to have your third/subsequent dates successfully:

• Beach
  • Nice weather, seeing each other in swimsuits, and swimming together can put you and that special lady in a better mood.
• Museum
  • Your bond with her can turn into an everlasting friendship or marriage by learning more details about her culture, recording videos and photos, and engaging in certain activities.
• Sport place (e.g. a bowling alley or roller skating rink)
  • Whether both of you choose to compete with each other in a game or hold hands, listen to diverse music, and dance on the skating floor, you and she can create something wonderful together and inspire many other singles to repeat such actions.

Even if your relationship with a foreign female fails despite of successful dates, you still have incredible memories with her and the other way around. Keeping copies of photos, video clips, receipts, tickets, etc. is a huge plus. Like the Holy Bible or the truth, hard and solid physical evidence breathes extra life into your spirit and those of other individuals.

2). What should you say?

If you are frankly interested in being in a happy and successful international marriage, please cover these topics (by Dr. Chloe Carmichael, Phd.) with the ladies and your assigned matchmaker or translator:

• Purpose(s) or goal(s) of attending dates
• Relationships with family members, friends, and others
• Taking care of one’s health
• How one values times, money, marriage, children, etc.
• Whether you and each woman wish to spend more time together or split for good

It is so important to have these conversations so that you can be guided in a straight path to the right female. Sometimes, the female you are more attracted and interested in a serious relationship due to her positive demeanor and speaking the correct answers may actually be wrong for you. What if she loses interest in you eventually? Also, what if she is afraid or unwilling to tell you the (brutal) truth because she does not want to upset or make you angry? It is thus much better to move forward with your relationship with other dates, keep an open mind, and pay extra attention to who they are characteristically.

3). What are the results?

Obviously, third or subsequent dates are simple to do because you are somewhat aware of the ladies and vice versa. The downfall is that you can lose your international relationship by saying the wrong words or picking the wrong lady. So, please take advice from your translator or matchmaker especially if he or she has created international couples. Ask him or her for contact information of any secrets or tips that can help you seek true love with a foreign female as well.

4). How can you move forward with her?

If you tell and prove a particular woman that you are serious or in love with her, then hopefully, she feels the same way. But, she can possibly change her mind and become odd and distant from you. You may communicate and hear less from her as a result. Based on my experiences abroad, it can be hard to know and verify if the woman whom you have confessed your feelings is right for you or not. You have to ask and seek answers from God about that complicated problem. He knows and controls everything. Therefore, He can send you another lady who is 10 times better if you and the other female break up. All you need to do is keep being honest, vulnerable, patient, and open-minded to an unexpected connection with a lady whom you do not know or intend to meet.

STAGE 3 – The Friendship Stage

Long Distance Communication

1). What should you do?

Sadness and loneliness may pop in your mind when you leave your vacation in another nation and say ‘goodbye’ to the lady or ladies you have dated. However, thanks to advanced technology including text messaging, emailing, and video chatting, you can indeed look forward to long-distance relationship(s). The following things that you should perform for sustaining your long-distance connection with her or them are:

• Continue your conversation with her/them in small amounts.
• Focus on her/them more than you do with her/their location, culture, etc.
• Give, exchange, or share information, electronic gifts, etc. with each other.
• Plan when to visit and physically reunite with her/them in their country.
• Spend additional time for improvement of your health, life, character, skills, and/or relationships with relatives and friends.

Accomplish the above tasks in order to save your long-distance relationship(s). She or they would hence believe that you are a real Man of Action and take you more seriously. As long as you remain honest, loyal, and respectful, you can keep the international bond alive.

2). What should you say?

Do not talk so much about yourself especially your issues or obstacles at work, home, and other places. Honestly, would you do the same thing to your friends and family members? So treat the foreign lady or ladies whom you have dated as your friends too. Every time you talk to her/them, always or mainly give them positive details about everything and everyone in your life. Moreover, ask her/them any of these important questions that can help her/them solve her/their everyday problems and move forward to true peace and happiness:

• What is going on in your life?
• How do you feel about marrying me and living in my country permanently?
• Are we really in an exclusive relationship?
• Tell me something that I need to know about you.
• What are some things that you would like to know about me?
• What is your favorite music, TV show, movie, etc. when you rest?

If you still need support in figuring out what proper topics or questions to ask her/them, seek them from your assigned translator or matchmaker. A second option is researching information online or watching YouTube videos. Saying encouraging words can help you grow your long-distance connection with a suitable lady.

3). What are the results?

Any communication is the top key to any healthy, content, and strong union. But, if your conversation with the foreign female or females becomes negative or lacking, then you should be prepared to go back to square one or move forward with someone else. Staying in a relationship especially a long-distance type that is just going to disappear or cause you disappointment can leave you bitter and misogynistic. So, come up with a “Plan B” if you sense pessimism or distance from her/them. Otherwise, continue talking and taking your international relationship(s) to a higher level.

4). How can you move forward with her?

Somehow, I already have known that most foreign women I have dated are going to forget about me and move on with their lives. Before I have traveled to Odessa, Ukraine for the first time in April 2018, I have expected to repeat the same actions and face the same results from my previous vacations in Santiago, Dominican Republic and Barranquilla, Colombia. However, God has intended something different, unexpected, and exciting to happen in my mediocre life once I enter Odessa. 2 trips and 5 years later, I now run an online dating business with a former translator (Elizabeth) and occasionally hire a woman (Valeria) whom I have dated once and communicated on Skype for 2 years for her fitness training videos. Next year, Elizabeth and I are going to have a website in hopes of helping her female friends and other ladies in her dating agency seek their future husbands. If you ever become interested in registering, creating an account, and buying video chats so that you can connect with Ukrainian/European ladies virtually or meeting them in person on a possible vacation, please let me and Elizabeth know. Otherwise, if you already have a positive long-distance bond with a lady from another country, please keep talking, participating in online activities, exchanging electronic gifts, etc. with each other. She would forever appreciate them plus have a realization that not all men are the same.

STAGE 4 – The Betrothed Stage

Returning Overseas, Reuniting with Her, and Giving an Engagement/Proposal Ring to Her

1). What should you do?

You may experience one of the best times of your life if you return to Ukraine, Philippines, or another foreign country and spend additional time with the previous female(s) you have dated. For proof of your connection with her/them and your potential K1 or K2 fiance visa process, create and collect physical and digital items such as images, video clips, receipts, tickets, and/or souvenirs. Nevertheless, what is more important is the spiritual or unseen features that you witness from her/them and the other way around. An article from “SF Weekly” website confirms these personality qualities that determine she/they are wife material:

• Agreeable
• Compatible
• Self-accepting
• Comical
• Respectful
• Kind
• Considerate of your needs, desires, goals, etc.

Make sure that you also complete her or their checklists of the characteristics she/they seek in their future husbands. Then, once you are ready, please pick the woman who is right for you. Let her know how you feel about her and vice versa. If you both are on the same page entirely, privately seek support from your translator or matchmaker regarding a possible engagement and exquisite engagement or proposal ring. Wait for the proper time to come, ask your chosen lady to become your future wife, celebrate both of your engagement, and plan the remainder of your life with her…only if she says ‘yes’.

2). What should you say?

If you read an article by “marriage.com” author Erica Sunarjo, she might advise you to come up with this questionnaire for your foreign fiancé:

• Do you want to learn more of the English language before you move to my country and we become ‘husband and wife’?
• Do you wish to talk and connect with my family members while I do the same with yours?
• What does your parents truthfully think about me or our special relationship?
• What do you hope to get before, during, and after we legally get married?

These questions or similar ones need to be answered because you both need to accept everything – cultural differences, language barrier, her family, your family, different beliefs, and so on. Also, you both are going to face different times and go through various problems, emotions, experiences, etc. together. As long as you are both willing to tackle these challenges, then your relationship is going to survive and guide you and her to incredible effects.

3). What are the results?

Remaining single is okay. But, to step outside your comfort zone and to become engaged to a foreign woman who meets or exceeds your expectations are great feelings. You no longer have to feel alone or join male friends and other locals who enjoy the single life or hooking up with various ladies. You have an astounding lady whom you candidly respect and believe that she has descended from Heaven. You may want to encourage your male friends and relatives to seek foreign females for marriage as well. The problem is that many of them may hesitate or lack interest in international dating, marriage, traveling, etc. Unfortunately, they are mentally or emotionally stuck in the American or Western culture. All you can do is move forward with your journey to international marriage with a gorgeous woman by your side.

4). How can you move forward with her?

A good reason that famed writer Mark Manson describes about being in a marital connection is always seeing the positive side of all arguments, disagreements, or difficulties. Neither your foreign fiancé nor your relationship with her is perfect. For those reasons, you should embrace all benefits and flaws from her and with her. She would reciprocate with yours too. Next, Manson recommends a genuine friendship between a man and his wife or girlfriend. If you lose it or never have it in the first place, how can you improve or even make your international connection last longer? Secrecy, boredom, fear, and/or other negative feelings can truly take over and destroy everything you have built with your lady. Consequently, prevent or eliminate those issues by contributing much comfort, ease, respect, honesty, and love in your bond with her. She would be able to think clearly and have zero doubt or regret in marrying you.

STAGE 5 – The Spousal Stage

Applying for Fiance Visa, Marrying Her in Your Country, and Spending the Rest of Your Life with Her

1). What should you do?

To avoid frustration, confusion, etc., learn more online information about the K1 or K2 fiance visa process plus green card process. Please click on these linked blog posts as your guidance to a successful and simple process of sharing the rest of your life with a foreign wife:

• “The Fiance(e) Visa Process”
• “Fiance(e) Visa versus Spousal Visa”
• “How You Can Plan and Calculate the Cost of Your Singles Vacation…”
• “My Review – “Rapid Visa” Website”

Consult an immigration/visa attorney or a Rapid Visa agency member for assistance with Form I-129F (Petition for Alien Fiance(e), other particular forms, and other requirements of the fiancé visa process. Even though the green card process is optional, you can include it with the fiancé visa process if you want her to immediately obtain citizenship in your nation. Call and ask professional wedding planner(s) and even your loved ones for help in planning, organizing, and setting up your wedding with her. Please follow the 5-stage process of “The Fiance(e) Visa Process” blog post and 2 specific tables on “How You Can Plan and Calculate the Cost of Your Singles Vacation…” blog post for putting your thoughts in order. I have written both blog posts so that you and other male readers can retain a mind at ease while seeking the right ladies from other countries. Complicated details about the fiancé visa and green card process, their expensive prices, and possible gamophobia (fear of commitment or marriage) cannot stop you and your fiancé from getting married and sharing an extraordinary life together. Enjoy what you have until it is gone for good.

2). What should you say?

The words by licensed counselor Debra Fileta and entrepreneur and blogger Ruth Soukup has helped me come up with the following 10 questions for you and your (soon-to-be) wife to answer:

5 Questions to Ask before Marriage

• Can you share with me anything about your past relationships, family history, and experiences that make you who you are today?
• How can we keep peace, love, and unity between our families once we become ‘husband and wife’?
• How do you envision yourself as a wife, mother, homemaker, etc.?
• What type of work do you wish to do and amount of money do you wish to earn?
• Are you truly ready to legally marry me, permanently live in my country, and positively face and overcome our upcoming obstacles together?

5 Questions to Ask after Marriage

• What do you want to do today, tomorrow, next month, next year, and/or for the rest of our lives together?
• What can I buy you or do for you financially?
• Do you want to have (more) children or adopt them with me?
• Where do you wish to go for your vacation, birthday, etc.?
• Are you homesick and interested in going back to your country and reuniting with your family members and friends?

International marriage is a remarkable gift from God to a man and woman of diverse cultures or nationalities. Just because you receive it, it does not mean that you are going to keep it. Positive/sincere conversations and empathy for your foreign wife are required so that your marital relationship can survive. If you do not have any of them, then your marriage can be in jeopardy. In consequence, be willing to change your attitude and put yourself in her shoes. Moving to a new nation and facing a culture shock often can be overwhelming for anyone to experience.

3). What are the results?

Simplify and follow the step-by-step guide of your K1 or K2 fiance visa and green card process. Get professional and personal support from immigration/visa experts, relatives, friends, etc. Talk and overcome any difficulties that can turn your marriage with a beautiful foreign female into a heartbreaking divorce. This journey to everlasting true love and commitment with her can discourage you both and even cause you to cancel the wedding or worse – break up permanently. But, God is going to support, strengthen both of your spirits, and lead you and her to the fullness of your fate. A huge obstacle brings forth a huge reward for both of you.

4). How can you move forward with her?

Ignore what other people say or think about your unique relationship. Value and appreciate a woman who thinks, speaks, and behaves differently. Use negative words from haters or small-minded humans plus other obstacles to your and her advantage. Great ways are:

• Laughing together
• Telling each other stories or jokes
• Playing games
• Hanging out in public together or with friends/family members

Create plenty of photos and videos in order to collect adequate evidence for positive memories. If you both decide to become biological or adoptive parents, your child or children can continue both of your legacy and share your international love story with the next generation.

Conclusion

I hope that this introductory course encourages and helps you build a happy, healthy, and stable relationship with a foreign woman.

Nowadays, it is very difficult to connect with other human beings. Going on a date or especially building a monogamous bond is no different either. Nevertheless, if you have charm, good looks, a large amount of money, and/or good social skills, you would face less difficulty. You can easily befriend multiple people and become romantically/sexually involved with plenty of ladies. I am sorry for giving you these facts due to my negative experiences with the American or Western culture.

International dating helps you expand your dating options and extend your opportunities to find true love outside your country and comfort zone.

On the other hand, international marriage requires you to narrow your list of foreign women to date, pick that particular lady who suits your needs, desires, characteristics, beliefs, etc. and overcome legal, financial, etc. challenges that strengthen and lead you both to conjugal joy and peace.

Again, I wish that the above 5 stage process provides you a new but positive outlook on internationally dating and marrying a female with such great personality traits.

Countless women in Colombia, Ukraine, Peru, Philippines, China, and similar nations do not want to remain single or enter negative relationships with local foreign men who are capable of abusing, manipulating, rejecting, and/or cheating on them with other women.

Through Foreign Chat Web business, Elizabeth and I are doing our best in supporting her female friends and other Ukrainian/European ladies find real love with the opposite sex.

Through this blog of 6 and a half years, I am still doing my best in encouraging you and other male readers to seek whatever you need or crave in a foreign woman.

I want you to do your best in planning your long-term goals and possessing the persistence to bring them into your life.

Share what you gain with a female who brings out your best side.

Make her your best friend, right-hand woman, and wife someday.

If you actually do this and follow my 5 stages carefully, let me know and I would congratulate you on completing “International Relationship 101” course.

I would speak to you again on the next blog post.