Numerous men in United States, United Kingdom, Australia, and other Westernized countries are either frustrated or finished with dating and relationships. They are not going to change their minds now (early 2026) or later. Thousands or millions of American/Western ladies should give up and accept the possibility that they may end up alone, bitter, regretful, etc. However, if they lower their expectations or demands and change their difficult or hostile attitudes toward the opposite gender, the women may attract and gain potential boyfriends or husbands. After all, God has someone for everyone despite of his or her actions and way of thinking.
Recently, I have been watching YouTube videos regarding multiple guys refusing to attend singles events in America, Canada, and even China (which are all part of the Westernized world). They just expect more downfalls if they show up and meet crowds of women who seem to care more about their looks, charm, and especially wealth. Despite of the negative opinions of the men, the women and men who support the positive beliefs of the females still plan, organize, and host singles events. What is their explanation about the growing battle of the sexes?
On this blog post, I am going to provide you (American or Western man) 2 advantages and a single disadvantage for each type of dating culture based on its own culture.
Hopefully, reading such details can help you make the right decision.
But, in the concluding section, I would select which is better and give a rationale of how it is able to positively impact your life and help you find the woman of your dreams.
So, here is a blend of my thoughts and research findings:
American/Western Singles Events
Pro #1 – meeting someone face-to-face
According to writer Sanjana Gupta of “verywellmind.com” website, you can triumph in physically bonding with an American or Western female at an organized event in a local restaurant, park, bar, or coffee shop. Just:
- show up
- pay for entrance
- wear a nametag
- follow rules of speed dating
- have fun
The extra ladies that you speak for short amounts of time can lead you to more confidence and attraction to the one who is suitable for you. Nevertheless, due to our individualistic culture and the superior attitude that we face from our society, you may face delays, excuses, rejection, and/or frustration when it comes to true love in United States or the Westernized world. The good news is that you are not alone with those negative experiences, thoughts, or emotions. I would explain more details on the next subcategory.
Pro #2 – surrounding yourself with like-minded ladies
Like everyone else, you may feel nervous, awkward, and/or speechless when you go to a singles event for the first time or meet total strangers definitely. These questions may come to your mind:
- Would plenty of females show up?
- Are they going to like or accept me as I am?
- How can I connect with any of them for a few minutes?
- Am I going to have a matchmaker to help me decide what to say or ask them?
- Finally, am I going to meet “the one”?
Whether you get your answers or not, focus primarily on enjoying your time there. Keep a positive and open mind so that unknown ladies can become drawn and comfortable to talk and bond with you. Sympathize or relate to them personally no matter how different they are or what you expect them to look and behave. As a result, they may surprise and confirm that they are as optimistic of pursuing true love as you are.
Con – having limited time for human connection
Being alone for a long time may be better than facing immediate rejection or pressure to connect with total strangers is. Howbeit, you may feel stuck or destined to misery and regret for the remainder of your life if you avoid or stop attending singles events. Step outside your comfort zone and replace it with what scares you. For example, if you are worried about getting strange looks or negative comments/reactions from specific ladies, then:
- stay in a light and comical tone about yourself
- realize that they are secretly dealing with their own issues, demons, or insecurities
- focus on the ones who are going to like your personality, strengths, etc.
- communicate with a counselor, therapist, or friend who has years of experience with singles events
- pray to the Lord Jesus Christ who can turn your worry into faith, trust, or peace
- Read 1 Peter 5:7, Philippians 4:6 – 7, Proverbs 3:5 – 6, and Matthew 6:25 – 34 for verification.
Like myself, you may face indifference, rejection, and/or social awkwardness due to our individualistic (“me”) culture(s) which influences many American/Western citizens and possibly some foreigners who live in United States and other first world nations. If you are adamant about attending singles events regardless of the consequences, then I wish you the best of luck with most American/Western women who are probably there for only 2 types of men:
- “Chads” and “Tyrones”
- They are men who have access or possess good looks, charisma, riches, extravagant things, etc.
- simps
- This category describes average, broke, unattractive, nice, and/or weak-minded males who are willing to give women what they want.
The next category can help you skip more disappointment or frustration with dating and relationships.
“1 guy dates 50 women at the same time” video – “nectar” YouTube channel
International (non-Westernized) Romance Tours
To enter a foreign country (i.e. Ukraine, Colombia, or Philippines) initially may lead you to fear and uneasiness. It does not matter how you plan your vacation, pay your airline tickets, head to your local international airport, or arrive to your foreign destination. You are perhaps going to be scared abroad until you meet and befriend people at your possible romance tour. Whether the individuals are translators or matchmakers, foreign ladies whose profiles are available on the website (i.e. loveme.com or foreignchatweb.com), and/or other male clients, you can gain more confidence and self-improvement through them. You would no longer mentally be the old, naive, or manipulated (by the egocentric and dishonest American/Western society, media, etc.) person you are now. An anonymous author explains 3 benefits that enter your life once you develop a relationship with a foreigner:
- open-mindedness
- interpersonal skills
- expanding the “home is where the heart is” mentality
- Like myself taking 5 past trips in Colombia (in July 2008, August 2009), Dominican Republic (in November 2016), and Ukraine (in April 2018, August 2019), you can win comfort and familiarity with home countries of your possible new friends whether you visit them or not.
- Candidly, you can eschew a culture shock (which is mixed with confusion and fear) entirely if you:
This international experience is no different from building or improving your relationship with God. You have never actually seen Him or been in His Heavenly kingdom. But, you know that both of them exist and that the invisible place is joyful and safe compared to a foreign country (or countries) of your foreign friend(s).
“Meeting My Ukrainian Bride…” video – “A Foreign Affair” YouTube channel
Pro #2 – encountering a plethora of foreign women with sincere hearts and intentions
Unlike an American or Western singles event, a romance tour, especially that from A Foreign Affair agency, in Latin America, Eastern Europe, or Asia, has no problems in drawing sufficient male clients to multiple foreign females. Sometimes, certain group romance tours are sold out because more than enough American/Western guys buy them excitedly. Consequently, staff members of the agency may inform and ask some male customers if they desire to:
- receive a (full) refund
- change their group romance tours by rescheduling and/or picking diverse foreign cities
- or replace their tours with individual ones (“Latin Club”, “Euro Club”, or “Asian Club”)
Despite of the services that male clients select, they are still guaranteed to find true love and visit remarkable places with beautiful ladies as their dates and tour guides. Plus, the guys can always contact the personnel and request or receive updated facts about:
- fiance(e) visa process to learn regarding international marriage
- socials to attend for speed dating
- places to see and take their dates
- interpreters or matchmakers to befriend and hire for assistance throughout their vacations
- live webcasts to watch and participate on YouTube
- so on
You are able to truly seek your future girlfriend or wife through the agency if you continue going on romance tours (whether they are grouped, individual, or both types) and connecting with various ladies plus other male clients who are happily involved or married to foreign women. Regardless of what I have to say next, you should always prioritize human connection (or even divine connection) because it leads to improvement of your mental health, prolonging of your life, and growth of your legacy for your possible children, grandchildren, etc.
Con – facing expensive costs, scams, or gold diggers
If you are willing to meet and date foreign ladies on your own or without any help from international matchmakers or translators, then you should be concerned about these negative results:
- facing possible criminals such as scammers, liars, thieves, and/or even murderers
- being overwhelmed by cultural and language barriers
- using lousy or mediocre dating apps or websites that may disappoint or turn you into a catfishing victim
- wasting more time if you get lost at a foreign area or street
- maybe being ripped off if you visit a restaurant, store, or elsewhere by yourself and also anywhere no one speaks English
Researching and analyzing data about a country, its female citizens, etc. that you want to become familiar are very important because they can help you avoid more issues with your finances, relationships, and so forth. Meeting and hiring someone to guide, protect, and advise you about everything and everyone in your foreign destination is a large plus. You can save yourself from walking into trouble, dating gold diggers or scammers, and losing money or valuables that you are going to need for your return to your home nation (i.e. United States or Canada).
“Caesar’s Single Life Journey” video – “90 Day Fiance” YouTube channel
Conclusion
I have to be candid with you. The downfalls of singles events in United States and the Western world outweigh their advantages. Why should you, I, and any other good-hearted men still attend singles events and know fully in our hearts that we may be:
- disappointed
- rejected or ghosted by female dates
- taken advantage by spending ridiculously big amounts of money for their meals and perhaps those of your friends or children (if the women are single moms)
I am aware of the fact that certain people (e.g. the wealthy class or even racists) have their own singles events privately in order to only mingle with those whom they consider attractive or equal to them socially. Above all, they have a right to live their lives and be with whoever they desire.
In addition, men who choose to attend romance tours in Latin America, Asia, Europe, or Africa have a right to date or marry foreign females as well.
Mostly all male clients of international dating agencies have positive experiences with:
- approaching despite of their fears
- communicating regardless of language barrier
- dating whether the ladies are genuinely interested in them or not
- searching for true love thanks to insightful, advisable, and caring matchmakers or interpreters
Unlike a multitude of American or Western women, foreign ladies freely offer their hearts to modern men who show respect, curiosity, kindness, and interest in them individually.
Many males may reciprocate to foreign women and take their relationships with them to the next level. Whether more guys end up having foreign wives or not, more American/Western females are going to stay single. I say this fact due to the plethora of men who claims to be done with dating and relationships with American/Western ladies.
The person or group of people who has predicted the 2030 female loneliness epidemic deserves a worldwide recognition and colossal award(s) for:
- exposing the toxicity, manipulation, etc. of American or Western ladies
- helping men seek better quality women or pick themselves over the wrong ones
There is another prediction thanks to the social media videos of modern American/Western females who constantly show their true colors. It is the growth of the MGTOW (“Men Going Their Own Way”) and Passport Brothers online communities. Average guys deserve to enjoy the rest of their lives alone or with women from other countries despite what feminists and misandric groups say, think, or do against them. In addition, American/Western ladies have a right to continue attending singles events even if they do not meet the men of their dreams there. The females perhaps enter for free or cheap prices. They might receive complimentary food and beverages as well. However, they should be open-minded and encouraging to the homeless or underprivileged group of men. Although the lower class males may seem disgusting, they may have bigger hearts, show the women more appreciation and respect, and help them change their attitudes entirely.
International romance tours, based on my experiences in 3 nations, are blessings from God to American/Western guys.
You can learn something new and unexpected about yourself.
You are capable of expanding your comfort zone.
Your relatives, friends, coworkers, and other locals would become puzzled or confused because they would not be able to read your mind and manipulate you anymore.
Like myself, you are probably going to believe that you have died and gone to Heaven.
Beautiful foreign women may seem like angels who have descended from the Kingdom of God.
You might compare your matchmaker or interpreter as your guardian angel.
If you keep having faith in the Lord Jesus Christ, obeying His commandments, and attending singles events or romance tours, you are guaranteed to meet and bond with your future wife or girlfriend.
Cupid is waiting to bring you close to a like-minded lady wherever she is globally.
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