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Why Do Some American Males Want Females who Are Unavailable or Uninterested?

Despite that I have relocated to another city 5 months ago, I still prefer to frequent a certain Planet Fitness gym in the previous city I have lived from late 2016 to early 2024 (this year). What are my reasons? They are:

I cannot help myself from regularly looking at her natural beauty. But, I make sure that I do not pose as a creep or pervert. I am not so desperate in getting myself possibly reported and kicked out of that gym for good. I need to keep my gym membership in order to improve my health and avoid health issues in the future. Plus, I realize that she is an American female who:

If you (American or Westernized man) are frustrated or tired of being mistreated, overlooked, and/or considered as a rebound, second best, or even an ATM by the opposite sex, you should pay more attention to women in other nations such as Colombia, Poland, Japan, Philippines, Brazil, etc. They are prominent for having different mindsets and treating men in general with much respect, sincerity, and gratitude. I am a living witness and recipient of more than enough positive energy from incredible women in 3 countries (Colombia, Dominican Republic, and Ukraine) I have visited in the past.

Honestly, why do thousands or even millions of American/Western males (including us) still have an innate urge to chase after local ladies who really do not want to be with them?

Here are the following 5 reasons which are a combination of mines and those of other authors:

Reason 1 – The men think that they can win the hearts of the women sooner or later.

Unless or until each solves the issues in his own life, he may have a small or no chance in attracting the opposite gender. Christian and FOXNews.com writer Joshua Rogers verifies that fact as his first method of relationship success. The man needs to initially analyze, record, plan, organize, and seek professional, spiritual, physical, etc. support with his difficulties. If he chooses to ignore them, procrastinate, and/or depend on others (whether they are his family members, friends, acquaintances, and/or total strangers) to fix his life, then he may repeat the same mistakes (or worse) with local females and go back to square one. Fortunately, he can receive attention and affection from the wrong women who are just as disorganized, confused, etc. as he is. If he wants to get rid of them and have peace, joy, freedom, and other positive qualities, he needs to focus on improving himself. The right lady or ladies would eventually show up in his life if she/they sense the same personality traits that she/they also possess.

If he is willing to change for foreign women whose exotic features and more positive characteristics draw him to international dating/marriage, then perhaps he should get in touch with someone (male or female) who is happily involved in an international relationship. A foreign translator or matchmaker is also another supportive and friendly human being who can sincerely direct him in the right direction as well. Without a doubt, self-discipline, self-improvement, selflessness, and a reciprocal friendship between him and another individual who is experienced with dating/marriage overall are going to assist him in wooing the woman of his dreams.

pretty local woman rejecting a male – marriage.com

Reason 2 – The guys want to continue fantasizing their bonds with certain women whom they picture as their future girlfriends or wives.

Reality is considered unpleasant, gloomy, or painful to individuals who refuse to deal with the whole truth about this world. When it comes to physical and/or spiritual attraction toward certain women, some men may prevent themselves from approaching, asking out, or even thinking about the possibilities that those ladies may lose interest or reject them utterly. In the bulleted list below, I want to describe a solution or positive outcome for each reason that “Talkspace” author Ashley Laderer elaborates:

  • fear of being hurt
    • If a guy senses or suspects ugly consequences of developing non-mutual feelings for female(s), he should turn his main focus to someone else (i.e. a female friend who is not his type but can help him move forward).
  • love of chasing her
    • To keep himself from becoming a stalker or sexual harasser, he should find a healthy replacement (e.g. a passion for video games or a genuine conversation with the Lord Jesus Christ) that can help distract and lead him to a route of peace, joy, prosperity, etc.
  • desire or belief of “fixing” her
    • Whether she is right for him or not, he should accept her wholeheartedly, respect her feelings completely, and let God retain control of the difficult situation and pick whether or not his relationship with her can survive and grow.
  • living in a fantasy
    • Although it is important to stay optimistic, he also needs to be realistic and make proper choices in order to achieve his lifetime goals.

If he puts too much focus on local American/Western females who are out of his league and/or have zero interest in him, he may experience these 4 symptoms:

  • risking his own health mentally and physically
  • showing distant, hostile, ungodly, and/or abnormal behavior toward other human beings
  • making poor or irrational decisions
  • forgetting or purposely skipping job, school, etc. responsibilities

The great things about international dating are meeting and befriending plenty of foreign ladies who are beautiful inside and out. Unlike local dating or especially online dating, he can still receive positive effects even if he becomes infatuated with one or more ladies in another country. Many foreign women may be astounded that American/Western guys including him still crave their attention and warmth. Few females may still have a negative reaction just as multiple American/Western females do. However, the main point is that he can truly find who he is and what he wants in his life through few or several foreign ladies. Expanding his imagination and/or strategizing the remainder of his life with a lady from a non-Westernized or third world nation are a big encouragement and improvement to his mental state.

man with invisible wife at an American airport – “A&E” YouTube channel

Reason 3 – The males wish to avoid or escape loneliness altogether.

The omnipresence of God does not change the fact that many people still feel lonesome, unwanted, or inferior. They are letting their negative situations, experiences, etc. defeat, undermine, or conceal the positive sides of their problems. Thus, if a negative man wishes to have a positive bond with a specific woman, even if she is somewhat negative, he has to be willing to adjust his attitude/behavior for himself mainly or only. The main reason that I speak this is her possible lack of interest in him someday. In other words, what if she schemes to dump him for someone “better” regardless of the boost of their relationship? He needs to remain emotionally stable and absolutely conscious of that likelihood. In addition, he has to distract himself with the following “HelpGuide.org” article tips:

  • reaching out to humans who understand, empathize, and/or relate to his issues online, offline, or both
  • aiding those who lack help with their groceries, properties, bills, and/or other responsibilities
  • visiting or traveling to places/areas where he can rest, truly be himself, and/or meet positive influencers
  • adopting dogs, cats, and/or other animals that can help rejuvenate his spirit and change his viewpoint of life, nature, etc. in general
  • using nice, durable, and professional notebook(s) plus diverse pens (red, black, and blue) for jotting his thoughts, ideas, aspirations, step-by-step strategies, etc.

A small number of local American/Western ladies may be content with him if he dedicates himself to self-enhancement. Nevertheless, he may receive additional praise and respect from the opposite sex if he travels to Latin America, Europe, Asia, or Africa. Like myself, he can put an end to isolation, thank God for what he has, and wait patiently for the right time to be with a suitable female. Furthermore, he should have a different perspective toward loneliness because he can be separated or protected from the wrong person or people too.

American man explaining increased rate of lonesome young males – “ManTalks” YouTube channel

Reason 4 – The men constantly get harassment or unwanted attention from unattractive, unreasonable, and/or undesirable women.

I can fit in this subcategory due to my past job experiences with evil, desperate, and attention-seeking female coworkers and supervisors. Typically, countless women and children are the primary targets of sexual advances, human traffickers, and/or other heinous criminals worldwide. But, in some cases, men can even become victimized by the same offenders as well. The good news is that a man can file a report or complaint at his current job if one or more female workers keep making him feel uncomfortable, vulnerable, or provoked to take vigilante action against them. If he has to report or complain to the human resources (HR) manager(s) or employer(s) 5 times, he must do so for his own sake and sanity. The person or people in charge can hence have a serious conversation with the troublemaker(s), give her or them a warning, and force her/them to change her/their behavior and attitude toward him.

He may not get as much love from others, including local American/Western ladies, as child and adult female victims do concerning (sexual) harassment or unwanted attention. The women are more likely to believe that he can deal with his own issues or seek help from other males. He might gain 1, 2, or possibly 3 true female friends who are willing and able to be there for him anyway. Despite that I am providing my assumptions to you, I also give you a following text link that you can click and read statistics and other facts about guys who endure sexual, mental, physical, etc. abuse:

Traveling might be the best medicine for any male victim. He can escape and go somewhere he is treated like an actual human being. Based on my personal experiences in Ukraine, Dominican Republic, and Colombia, he is able to build a healthy, respectable, and everlasting connection with the opposite gender abroad. He would have a more clear and positive outlook of everything and everyone including himself. He can finally and eternally liberate himself from eternal injustice, discrimination, arrogance, and other ungodly forces that exist where he lives. The same thing applies to me and perhaps you too regarding our local residences.

“Sexual Harassment – It Happens To Men Too…” video – “Supportah TV News” YouTube channel

Final Reason – More guys are becoming aware of the “Passport Bros” movement or their opportunity to seek better women overseas.

Despite of the negative impact or bad reputation of the “Passport Bros” community, “90 Day Fiance” series, and other international dating/traveling references, additional people are learning and showing romantic, platonic, or sexual interest in someone outside their races, cultures, and/or nationalities. They realize that they can stop themselves from joining their relatives, friends, and other locals who prefer to keep their limited mindsets and stick to their own kinds personally, professionally, etc. Individuals who are color-blind or accepting of the diversity of humankind are capable of achieving more goals than those who often discriminate or focus on looks do. So, the majority of males becomes happier, more confident, and more mature if it ever goes abroad and connect with various foreign females. In fact, there are multiple women of different ethnicities, etc. in United States and other first world nations. The huge problems are their optimistic attitude toward themselves and their loved ones as well as their pessimistic perspective toward men who are considered mediocre, broke, unattractive, etc. by society. You can get more than enough evidence of how thousands or millions of “Average Joes” are treated on Google, social media, and so forth. No one including myself can blame them for:

It is a large relief that we men can find something or someone better in another country. We can escape racism, mediocrity, belittlement, etc. Surely, we may encounter some foreign women (or people in general) who may try to take advantage of us financially. Howbeit, to hire or befriend another stranger who wants the best for us is so required. Our amazing rewards are stunning ladies who want to stay by our sides and their unlimited assistance in overcoming current and forthcoming drawbacks.

“White Passport Bros Say They Aren’t Dating No More Women In America” video – “The Phillip Scott Show” YouTube channel

Conclusion

Human connection is so awkward in America and the Western world that many single or divorced individuals probably think that they are better or meant to remain single forever. In their minds, bonding with others seem nonexistent, imaginary, or impossible to create. Online dating and/or local dating just appear to aggravate ongoing hurdles that singles or divorcees may have faced for decades. For that reason, they need to consider looking abroad for the right partners or spouses. Otherwise, their finite mentalities, which are affected by their ignorant societies or communities, may guide them to extra loneliness or negative relationships with locals who fail to fulfill/exceed their expectations.

Thanks to the rise of dating and entering a successful relationship with a foreign lady, we American/Western males no longer have an excuse or purpose to spend the rest of our lives in misery and regret.

In spite of endless obstacles that strive to enslave, trouble, and/or hold us back mentally, we are able and free to do whatever, go wherever, and be with whoever we are pleased and vice versa.

It is a great feeling to be led to a route where God exists and wants us there with Him eternally.

In some way, I am empathetic to ladies (both local American/Western and foreign ones) who push good men away because they are afraid of commitment or hopeful of meeting/bonding with males with better looks, more charm, extra incomes, etc.

The women are just helping those good men find better women with more inner and outer beauty.

Hence, haters or barriers are blessings in disguise.

If you still face rejection or opposition where you live, begin:

  • planning in advance
  • saving adequate money
  • taking notes of everything that you read or watch online in order to reach your ambitions

Agree, work, and have faith in God so that He can direct you to the appropriate place plus the woman of your dreams.

You should know once you feel protected, loved, respected, accepted, and motivated to be who you are on the inside.

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